Saturday 12 March 2016

Girl in the new city...........




I have been thinking of writing this down for quite sometime, but didn't get the time and patience until now. This is more of a travelogue than a note, but since I don’t have the habit of writing a blog or anything, I just thought I will write it down here.

My first trip to the US, that too all alone, was on March 18th, 2014. That was the first time I had been to the T2 Terminal of Mumbai and it was fantastic. Dejoy came to see me off and I almost cried, because I so badly wanted him to be there with me for the trip. My flight was via Amsterdam (Schiphol airport) where I had a couple of hour’s transit time. So I thought I will just explore the terminal and ended up in a liquor store. Then suddenly i remembered about a coffee liquor I had had at a friend's place and I always wanted to buy the same. I went looking for that and finally got it, Bailey's Irish Cream :) I checked the price and decided to check out in the US also before purchasing. You know I am a miser :P The result of this exploration was that I ended up having 2 small bottles of Bailey's in my flight from Amsterdam to Boston :P

At Boston, I was supposed to go in a shared taxi, which my boss had already booked, to my hotel in Reading. I had no clue how to find the taxi since there was no number or anything. All my immigration and customs was kind of cake-walk for me though I was a lot tensed about the same. When I was waiting to collect my baggage, I got a call in my phone from the taxi person asking me to come out through a specific gate. I understood bits and pieces of the same and found out the gate and went out. I saw one person standing outside with my name board. I went up to him and he told me that he is the cab driver. I got a bit confused because what we had booked was a shared van! Realizing my confusion, he told me that there is nobody else to share a cab with and hence I can go in a single cab, all alone.. I was not sure whether I should be happy or sad about this! I am getting a cab all for myself, but then I am going alone to a new place, in a new city!!

I finally reached my hotel, Extended Stay America at Woburn, Main Street. They gave me a room on the second floor with a nice view onto the main road. It was almost 3 PM there and I still felt freezing cold inside the room which made me put my room heater in full power! I was not supposed to sleep off then because of the whole jet lag stuff and hence decided to just walk around before it gets too cold. There was a market basket just opposite my hotel and I decided to go there and may be pick up some dinner also. When I had decided to make this trip, I did get a lot of shopping requests from people asking me to get things from US, mostly electronics stuff. I am not a techie person and hence I had no clue what I wanted from US! But this supermarket trip made me realize that I should be getting a lot of sauces and spreads from there!!!! :D

 
Next day was my first day in office and early morning Gary called me up to let me know that he will be coming to pick me up at around 8 AM. That was the first time I was meeting my manager in person! He is a really nice guy to work with, I should say. I was really happy to see his black sleek Audi :P We reached office and the parking was a bit far from the office building. Gary had told me to wear all my woolen but I didn’t quite understand why he said that until I came out of the car. It was all sunny outside, but the wind was freezing cold. I felt my fingers crumbling! I have no idea how I covered that distance from the parking to the building entrance! I couldn’t feel my legs! Once inside office, it was comfortable though I took some time to become normal! I met with all my teammates, George, Suzanne, Cathy, Lesley.. It was good to finally have faces to all these names! That evening a few of the Indian folks in Reading office called me for dinner. It was a good Indian restaurant, I don’t remember the name though. Abitha picked me up from my hotel and I met with Sreeram, Viral, Santhosh and Ram. Mostly tamilians and I enjoyed the food and the company J
 

Rest of the weekdays went fine. One day I had dinner with Nuvs and Gary at an amazing restaurant at Burlington named ‘Not your Average Joe’s’ . I still savor the taste of the yummy pizza I had from there. I met with Edmund with whom i work most of the time. One day I went out for lunch at Mandarin, Reading with Gary and Suzanne. It was a lunch buffet and I really hogged! One of the days, we left office a little early and I decided to walk to the nearby Woburn mall. It was almost 2 miles from my hotel and the walk towards the mall was nice. Did some shopping also. But the return ended up to a scary business as the roads were empty with no sign of humans around. It was just 7PM in the evening!!

 On Friday, Suzanne was asking me about my weekend plans. I did want to go out on weekend, but didn’t really have a plan. Suzanne was a doll and she sent me all the information she could get hold of about the subway routes, taxi contact, things to do and see at Boston etc. I felt that she badly wanted me to explore Boston! I had also asked a friend of mine and she had given me a list of places to visit. In between, Dejoy planted in me this idea of going to New York over the weekend! I checked out the buses and trains, but it was all full and hence dropped the idea. Abitha asked me to join her for a party she was planning to go to, but I didn’t feel like and hence declined the same. All confused and sad from that fact that I was all alone there, I decided to do nothing and stay back in the hotel! Thanks to Dejoy for pushing me to drop that plan and do something over the weekend. So Friday night, back from office, I started my planning for the next day.

I understood that the only mode of public transport near my hotel is the MBTA bus service and that it’s not there on Sundays!! So I had one day in hand to cover the entire Boston! I understood that timing and planning is the essence!! The first bus is at 7 AM and I have to start then. First I listed down all the places I want to visit in Boston and then I mapped them in Google maps and understood the distance between the places and also the mode of transport available. I must say, Google maps is such a life saver, so is the Google navigation in phone!!! Finally after 3 solid hours of Googling, I came up with a detailed route map and plan! This first step itself made me so proud and happy! I went to bed feeling accomplished.

I woke up at 6 AM since I had to catch the first bus at 7 AM from the stop right opposite my hotel, Bus number 134. This is the only public transport which connects Woburn to Wellington area. The grab and go breakfast in my hotel was really handy. My first destination was Harvard Square and for that my plan was to get to Wellington Subway station and get into the Redline from there. The bus came at around 7.10 and I got into the same. It was pretty empty. Now comes the funny part! There is no ‘conductor’ in the bus and I was totally confused as to how to get the tickets. While getting in itself, the driver did ask me something which I didn’t understand. I ignored him and sat in a seat. Later, after observing some fellow passengers getting in, I understood that the driver himself is the conductor:P I went up to him and told that I want to go to Harvard square and hence want to get down at Wellington. He told me to get down at Medford and take another bus (Bus 96) which directly goes to Harvard square. I paid him 2 dollars. That’s another funny part. Irrespective of where you are getting down, the ticket is of the same rate; 2 dollars!

I reached Harvard square at around 8.45 am. It was really cold outside. I walked through the lanes and reached inside the Harvard campus. It was so divine and peaceful inside. I saw the famous John Harvard statue. That is when I realized the major problem of traveling alone, nobody to click your photo! Finally I asked some tourists who came that side to click one for me. I never thought that would be the only photo in my whole US trip with my face in it!!! L I went through the full campus, saw the engineering block, museums, labs and also classrooms. It was a pretty long walk and I was hungry! So I picked up a sandwich from one of the few cafes which were open at that time and walked to Harvard station in the Red Line. I was also planning to buy Charlie card from there which can be used in the bus and trains instead of giving money every time; we can load the card from any station and use. Suzanne told me about this J

So fully loaded, I took the Redline from Harvard to Park Street and from there green line to Copley. After getting down at Copley, I walked towards Prudential center. Thanks to Google maps for this information and navigation. While I was walking towards Prudential, I noticed a lot of people dressed up in different characters walking alongside. It was really amusing and I understood that there is some costume party happening at the exhibition center over there. I had a tough time figuring out the entrance to the Prudential center because of the crowd over there. Inside the mall, I realized that my phone is getting drained very fast because of the navigation and I decided to charge my battery. I found out the loo in the mall and went in looking for a plug point. It was more of a dressing room than a washroom, I felt! There were lots of girls and ladies coming into the room to get ready for the costume party I had mentioned before. It was really fun to see them coming in looking extremely normal, going out looking ravishing and unique J

           

After checking out some shops at Prudential, I decided to go to the Macy’s at Washington Street. Got into the green line at Copley and then got down at ParkStreet and walked to the Macy’s. I always wanted to visit a Macy’s... I wanted to buy something for Dejoy from there, was looking out for some nice shirts or jackets. It was all highly priced and the conversion math gave me a headache!! Finally I identified a session of informal blazers which were on sale. They were all awesome looking and I wanted to pick one for Dejoy. I didn’t knew his size as per the UK scale over there and hence made a video call to him through Skype. I showed him all the options I had and asked him to select. I also sent him pics so that he get a better idea. Finally I selected one and went to the billing counter. There was a long queue over there, still I waited patiently. Finally my turn came.

There was a happy looking middle aged guy at the billing desk. We wished each other and he asked me whether this is my first time in the US! I said “Yeaaahh”. He was so excited to hear the same, he told me in that case I deserve a gift!! I thought he is kidding.. He told me “Say the magic word,, You know it dear” and smiled at me… Then I remembered my officemate Sidd telling me that in the US, the staff at department stores can give you awesome discounts. So I thought, “What magic word should I say!?” I decided to choose the safest one though. All excited, I said “Please, sir” and boom straightaway I got a discount of 20 dollars!! That was a steal……. Dejoy was on Skype with me and he couldn’t believe that I got the blazer at that price. He asked me run before he catches me :P :P I did run :D


The moment I got out of the Macy’s, I realized that it rained while I was inside. The city looked so beautiful and different now. My next destination was Faneuil Hall marketplace located near the waterfront. As per the map, it was walkable distance and weather also supported that option! So I walked from Macy’s towards Faneuil and on the way I saw the busy life of Boston. Cars speeding, people walking in all directions and magnificent buildings. By the time I reached Faneuil Hall, I was hungry! I roamed the place for sometime but quickly decided to have my lunch and then do all the shopping. My friend Sandhya’s friend had suggested a restaurant in that area and I mapped to Durgin Park. When I reached the place, the entrance looked a bit shady. It was not a fine dining or something. The stairs to the restaurant upstairs was really scary for me!



I found an empty table in a quiet corner of the restaurant. I purposely chose that place since I didn’t want any locals to get ‘shocked’ with what I eat and the way I eat!! The waiter boy was quiet surprised to see a girl alone in there. He asked me at least twice or thrice whether I am alone or I am expecting someone. I remembered the scene in Friends where Rachel dines alone and gets judged for the same :P Anyways, when it comes to food, I don’t care whether I am alone or whether anyone is gonna judge me! So I decided to hog as usual :D Based on the recommendations I received, I ordered a New England clam chowder and Lobster roll. Yummy it was, I must say….


    
                                                  


Happily fed, I moved out of the restaurant. Did some random shopping in the South Market area, saw the famous Freedom Trail.

   

My next target was North End, Boston which was a residential area with a lot of Italian population. Suzanne had told me that I must visit the same for 2 reasons. One, awesome architecture and second, amazing pastry shops.
           
While walking through the streets at North End, I came across a beautiful church also. Structurally it was very different from the kind of churches I had seen and was also very serene inside.

   

Finally I reached my dessert destination, the Mike’s Pastry J I had no issue in finding out the place as I could see the crowd from half a mile away! God, the place was shit crowded which makes one doubt whether all of them are visiting Boston for the first time like me! There were long queues (Yes! Multiple queues!!!) and I was not even able to see what is happening at the counter!

I realized that this endeavor of mine is going to be really time consuming but I decided I will wait patiently. At the end of the day, it’s for foooooooooood J
Finally my turn came and I didn’t even get a good chance to understand the menu completely because people behind were rushing me. So I ordered the most popular thing they offer, Cannoli.. Also ordered a lot of cupcakes, ricotta pie and a few pastries. I didn’t get time to think whether I am going to eat all that, I just ordered blindly. I got my boxes and I struggled my way out happy and content J


                                                          



That was my last destination for my one day trip. Since I was using public transport, time was very critical as the last bus to Woburn left at around 5.30 PM from Wellington Station Bus Bay. I already lost significant time at the pastry store. Hence I rushed to the metro line. I took the Orange line from Haymarket to Wellington station. In the train, there was an announcement that, since there was some construction going on in the rail lines, the last station would be Sullivan square! Hmm, that’s trouble. That means I am gonna lose more time now. So I got down at Sullivan square. There was an MBTA bus arranged which took all passengers to Wellington station. There was again long queue for the bus and I got into the second trip that left. Finally I reached the Wellington bus station and asked around for the 134 bus route. They pointed me to one bus stop and said the last bus will come in 15 minutes. By then, it was around 6.00 and it was getting very cold. I started getting a little scared too! When you are alone, scared, cold and waiting, time seems to run super slow. It felt like I have been waiting for years for my 134!! Finally it came! Everybody got down as it was the last stop for the inbound journey and now the bus will return after a few minutes. I got inside, there were only a couple of people who were there with me inside. After almost 10 minutes, the driver took the bus and I was suddenly a lot calm. I mapped to my hotel in my phone and was making sure that we were on the right route!! Only a few got into the bus during the journey.

By the time we reached half way through the distance, I noticed that only two people were left in the bus now. Me and another female. That was odd given the fact that we are yet to cover half the distance. In another ten minutes, the driver stopped at a bus stop and turned back and told us something. I didn’t understand it at all and I assumed that he was talking to the other female. I looked at her and she also looked confused. The driver again said something and this time I almost understood. He said that that was the last stop of the bus!!!

Ok, now I am really scared. How can this be the last stop!! I asked him the same. He said this is some ‘shorter version’ of 134 and it ends at that point. I asked whether there is any other bus that will come, he said he has no idea. The bus drivers over there can be people who do this for part-time and hence might not be aware of any specifics. We got down and he took a u-Turn and left!!

It was almost 7PM in the evening and I was standing clueless on the footpath in an unknown place with an unknown woman! 7PM in Mumbai is nothing, people start to live at that time only, but 7PM in a countryside in the US was totally different. I couldn’t find a single human being around apart from the 2 of us. That lady looked equally scared and she was trying to make some calls. I didn’t bother to do that since I knew everyone who care about me would be sleeping peacefully in India at that time….. To add to the already messed up scene, I noticed that we are standing opposite a cemetery with lots of trees and it felt like a Hollywood horror movie setting!!

I was thinking about all the different options I have. I can try to get a cab, but there was no Uber or anything in that area. My hotel folks had given me the contact details of a few cab agencies and thought I will call them. Another option was to call Gary or Suzanne but I quickly decided that that would be my last sort. Then it struck me that before doing any of this, I should confirm whether there is any bus which is gonna come now. I decided to ask the lady. She told me that she has no idea and she is trying to get a cab. I thought I will go with her, if she is ok with that… But she told me she has been trying for some time and no cab is ready to come all the way there to pick her up.

So we decided that she will try for the cab option and I will see whether any bus is there. I had no clue how though. My only travel guide throughout the entire day was Google maps and it was not showing any feasible bus option. Suddenly I remembered that Dejoy had installed a lot of Boston apps on my phone before the day of my travel. I had no idea what all apps he had put, but remembered him telling me that there are apps with train timings, bus timings etc. So I frantically looked through the apps in my phone and came across an MBTA app!!!!! I opened the same and Voilaaaa… That’s exactly what I was looking for. It had a map view of all the buses around you along with the number (like Uber). The first thing I saw was #134 and I saw one bus on the map coming towards us. It was sooooo happy. I told the other lady that there is a bus coming and we both waited eagerly for the same. We waited for like 10 minutes and there it was… 134 Bus….. But… in the opposite direction…… In the excitement in finding out the nearest bus, I didn’t check whether it was inbound or outbound. We wanted an outbound one whereas the one which I saw on the map was inbound!!! The lady gave me a blank smile!

Anyways the fact that there was an inbound bus at that time gave me hope. I kept checking the app every second irrespective of the fact that my battery is getting drained at exponential rate. Finally I found one J There was an outbound 134 coming in our direction. Hurraaayyyyy…… I told the lady and we both started looking at the app screen without even blinking our eyes as if if we blink, the bus is going to vanish!! We tracked the bus until it reached us. Happy and relieved, we both got into the bus…………….. I reached the hotel at around 8.30 PM and I was soooooo happy. I felt like I accomplished something and felt like Ross who found a new meaning for life after the ‘near death’ car backfire!! :P I wanted to tell the whole story to Dejoy but I knew he will be sleeping….. I had an amazing dinner from the Sichuan Garden restaurant nearby with the awesome Mike’s pastries as dessert.

I had no plans for the next day as it was Sunday and there is no 134! So basically I am stuck. Then in the morning, I got a call from Suzanne and she said she has to drop her kids for some coaching and hence will be coming this way and can pick me up for some shopping. She said she wants to go to TJ Maxx and I was more than happy to join her. So we went to TJ Maxx, then to Target and later to Lindt Chocolate store. I picked up candies for Mayu and chocolates for my office friends. I enjoyed the ‘Shopping Day’ too. In the evening I went to the AC Moore craft store across my hotel and did some shopping for both my moms…

The next day when I reached office, everyone was asking me about my Boston trip as Suzanne had told all of them. They were soo surprised that I covered all that in one day! Of course the bus story remains hidden………..



Friday 11 March 2016

It's all about you, and it's only about you....



It's all about you, and it's only about you....


This is my first ever attempt at writing anything other than those essays we used to write in our high schools! So please do bear with me :)

This thought has been lingering in my head for quite some time now. Is the Women's day wishes flooding in FB or the Queen movie which has compelled me to take this step of writing it down, I don't know....

The journey of a woman is just spectacular, with so much variety, velocity and veracity (Courtesy-Big data!!). But it is not so easy also. You face a lot of restrictions, separations and segregation all around. I must say, what made me what I am today is my family. My parents, never did they restrict me from anything! I seriously don't remember any case where they forbid me from doing something. Instead they inspired and taught me a lot of things, Daddy taught me to play badminton, amma inspired me to learn basketball (which I cudn't), daddy told me to sing, amma told me to give speeches. Never did they say, 'Oh you can't do this, because you are a girl'! I was surprised when my friends had to think twice or thrice to even decide on going for a class tour! I was never bothered of what anybody else would think of me and hence I felt free........

But that dangerous thought of 'what others would think about you' did grab me along the way.. And I must say, that is one thought which destroys you. It makes you think un-necessarily and restricts the spontaneity in you. Our society is so well crafted that it makes each and every girl have this thought somewhere down the line and if you don't budge, they will label you, humiliate you & judge you until and unless you lose your character and try to be the stereotype. The whole moral code is set in tune with that. So yes, i also did budge. I started bothering about what others would think of me and hence I lost my freedom........

Now when i sit back and think about all that, I feel bad for those days which I lost trying to be someone else whom I am not. All those voices which urged you to fall in line are not anymore around you, not even close to you. They are all far far behind you. If this is how it has all ended up, then why did you even think of listening to those random, insignificant, meaningless voices around you! It struck me that it is never about what opinion others have about you, it's only about what you feel about yourself. Those who are true to you will accept you as it is, others will just drift away and they MUST!

So all the beautiful ladies out there.... Stop trying to be someone else, stop trying to fall in line, stop thinking twice before doing anything you feel strongly about, stop rearranging your priority list and stop being a stereotype!! Be unique, be different and most importantly, be happy!
"I am a Queen, I deserve to be treated as a Queen"
Happy Women's Day :)

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